Hot Married Sex

Porn videos don’t just have to be watched as their directors intended. There are a few creative porn video uses that are almost artistic yet still succeed in establishing an erotic or downright horny, atmosphere.

I suggest you pick a night when you and your spouse are guaranteed to be alone (you won’t want unexpected visitors) and then consider using one of the creative porn ideas below to establish a more intense sexual ambience in your home…

Muted Porn
Put a porn DVD into your player and then mute the sound. At the same time, play your favourite CD on your hi-fi and sit down with your spouse to enjoy a conversation over your favourite drink. There’s something unusual about listening to smooth jazz or classical music and enjoying a night of conversation whilst the TV is showing porn stars going at it like animals in heat.

Blind Porn
Here’s a variation on the previous idea. This time you should play a porn DVD and turn off the TV but have the audio coming through a surround sound system, so that you can hear but not see the action. Conversation may be more stilted when you try this, but you’ll be surprised at how much of a turn on listening to other people have hot sex can be.

Big Screen Porn
If you have a multimedia projector (you can now buy rudimentary but serviceable models for just a few hundred pounds or dollars) then  consider closing the curtains and projecting your favourite porn film onto your bedroom wall. Getting down and dirty with larger-than life porn stars in the background will be something you remember for a long time.

Hot Married Variations
Don’t like the idea of having regular porn in the house? Why not record your own movie with your spouse and then use that to replace the porn DVD in any of the previous suggestions? If you don’t like watching yourself, try the blind porn idea. If you don’t like listening, try the muted porn. And if you’re happy to watch and listen to yourself, why not put yourself on the big screen?

Being creative with porn can lead to a much more memorable night than simply watching it on TV with the remote in your hand. The suggestions presented here put the porn in the background so that you and your spouse can focus on what’s most important – each other.

Here’s a great oral sex video about the dilemma men face when they want to orgasm in the mouth of their partner, but aren’t allowed to do so. I wouldn’t really describe it as a dilemma (if she doesn’t want you to do that, don’t do it is my advice) but take a look at what Dan and Jennifer have to say on the subject.

How hot are you? That’s a question that few people ever ask themselves with any seriousness, but one that can help you to pack more sizzle into your relationship than any other.

When most of us think about our relationships, we tend to assess the other people in it. How hot is my wife/husband? Could they be hotter? What can I do to help them to let go of their inhibitions and unleash their inner slut/bad boy?

Whilst such questions can be useful in some circumstances, I have another question that is even more powerful: Would I get turned on if I lived with me?

Think about that question for a moment and imagine that you’ve traded places with your significant other. Then, through their eyes, honestly evaluate how much of a turn on you really are. Are you the kind of person that you’d like to live with? Are you as sexy, funny, charming, loving, caring, honest and considerate as you normally think you are? Or are you sometimes demanding, selfish, inconsiderate and deceitful? And would you really and truly be delighted to live with yourself for one year, five years, ten years and more?

Most of us who consider such questions honestly will admit that there is certainly room for improvement, and that’s a good thing, because it gives us something to work on to improve our marriages without pointing the finger anywhere outside ourselves.

One of the best things you or I can do to make our marriages stronger, our married sex hotter and our lives happier, is to commit ourselves to becoming a better person for the benefit and happiness of our spouse. This doesn’t mean putting our spouse at the centre of the universe; it just means understanding the impact we have on the marriage as a whole, and doing our best to make that impact the very best one we can manage.

So ask yourself again: Would I get turned on if I lived with me? If the honest answer is yes, congratulations. Define what makes you so great and do more of it. If the honest answer is hesitant or negative, identify what you can do to improve yourself and start working on those things. By improving yourself you will do your marriage and your hot sex life the world of good, and your spouse won’t fail to notice.

Manners and etiquette aren’t the most popular words of the 21st century, but they are essential if you want to enjoy hot married sex on a regular basis. If talking about manners and etiquette is likely to make you fall asleep then just think of something called The Dating Mentality.

My view is that if more married men and women worked on adopting the same attitude to their partner as they did when they first started dating them, the level of sexual intimacy and heat they would enjoy as a married couple would go through the roof. Why? Because most couples simply don’t try as hard to impress after a few years of marriage as they did in the beginning.

Think back to the time when you first started dating your spouse. The chances are that you were very particular about the way you presented yourself – paying attention to everything from the clothes and cologne that you wore right through to the words you used in general conversation. Guys, you probably tried hard to do gentlemanly things like opening doors and pulling out chairs for your partner. Ladies, you probably tried hard to flirt and look interested without being pushy. And you know what? All of this stuff worked, because here you are, years later with wedding rings on your fingers.

But where did The Dating Mentality go? If you’re like most couples, you probably allowed it to sneak off when nobody was looking. And although years of being together have brought you far closer than you were back in the beginning, the more relaxed attitude probably means that neither of you are as mindful of the impression you make on your partner as you once were.

My suggestion for today is that you go back to how you were right at the beginning of your relationship and brush up The Dating Mentality. Present yourself carefully to make the best impression you can on your partner and enjoy flirting and playing as you did back then. Not only will your partner find the more obvious interest compelling, it will help you both to tap into the connection that lies at the heart of your relationship. And, yes, you’ll probably enjoy hotter married sex as a result…

A pastor of a church in Florida has issued a challenge to the married members of his congregation – to have sex for 30 nights in a row. Regardless of your religious beliefs, this sounds like a challenge worth taking up – even if only to see what you learn on the way. Take a look at the CBS news video clip below (you’ll have to watch a 30 second commercial first) and see what you think: