Hot Married Sex

In yesterday’s post on Sexual Polarity I explained how our positions on the scale of sexual polarity determine how passionate and intense our relationships are. The maximum amount of passion is experienced by partners who are on opposite ends of the scale, and the least amount by those who are hanging around together somewhere in the middle. I then left you with the task of identifying where you and your partner currently are on the scale, and where you both were when you first got married.

Now take a look at that homework. Have your positions changed at all? Has the passion changed? Would you like to increase the amount of passion you have? Are you prepared to move yourself on the scale to get things started?

If you answer to the last two questions is yes, you will be relieved to learn that moving along the scale in either direction isn’t difficult. However, it may demand that you ignore modern “political correctness” and embrace a few traditional ideas about masculine and feminine traits. My advice is to try following my suggestions and judge them on the results you get rather than on any theoretical notions you have about how things should work.

My advice is presented in two sections. The first is for those who want to move themselves closer to the masculine end of the scale, and the second is for those who want to move themselves closer to the feminine end of the scale. Each section contains a list of one sentence instructions that have been written in a non-specific way so that you can follow each one without having to compromise your beliefs or attitudes. Spend some time thinking about how you can follow each instruction to become more masculine or feminine, and then do just that.

I suggest you focus on just yourself at this time, as when you move yourself on the scale you will often find that your partner automatically starts travelling in the opposite direction without even hearing about this concept – that’s how deeply it’s embedded in human nature.

Maximising Masculinity

Take responsibility for your own life. Make your own decisions based on reason, logic and common sense. Look out for your family, but don’t be bullied by them. Work smart and work hard to provide for yourself and your family. Take pride in your partner and children. Value them. Respect them. Protect them. Guide them. Set goals and achieve them. Have self-reliance as your ultimate goal. Be direct and to the point in conversations. Take control. Dress like someone who is in control. Walk and talk like someone who is in control. Dominate your life.

Maximising Femininity

Respect the leadership of your masculine partner. Support their decisions and the fact that they are doing what they believe to be the best thing for you all. By all means use your feminine wiles to influence and persuade on important matters, but don’t try to force the issue. Create a calming and pleasant atmosphere for your partner so that they can relax properly. Allow yourself to be guided by your partner. Follow their lead. Support their efforts. Dress for the pleasure of your partner and to make yourself feel as feminine as possible. Walk and talk like someone who enjoys being led by their partner.  Enjoy being taken care of. Speak softly during conversations. Submit.

Now these lists might not go down very well with some people because they contain stereotypes of what it means to be masculine and feminine. My response to that criticism is that stereotypes didn’t become stereotypes by accident, and a traditional view of masculine and feminine tends to work best where sexual polarity is concerned.

Of course, if you’re a woman who needs to be strong and more masculine in the board room at work, you should feel free to do just that. Simply remember to go back into a more “feminine mode” when you return home to be with your husband. The key idea of this whole sexual polarity discussion is that we should all be a lot more aware of how our relative positions on the sexual polarity scale affect our relationships. When we are aware of that, we can all take steps to change our position and enjoy a more passionate and intense relationship – both in and out of the bedroom – as a result.