Hot Married Sex

Dirty sex, filthy sex, nasty sex – it seems that most of us like to, or are at least in the habit of, describing sex in fairly dark ways. Of course, very few of us really believe that sex is dirty, filthy or nasty, but there is something about “getting down and dirty” that sounds a lot more appealing than “making sweet sweet love”.

The same observation can be made about the way in which we talk to our partners about and during the sexual act. “I want to fuck you hard” tends to get the primal desires roused far more effectively than “I want to enjoy rigorous intercourse with you”, even though both statements say roughly the same thing.

I think that our preference for “dirty words” stems from cultural ideas about sex that were handed down to us during childhood. Many of us were taught, either explicitly or implicitly, that “cock”, “cunt” and “fuck” were “dirty, nasty words” and shouldn’t be used to describe genitalia or the act of intercourse. In fact, all three were the regular Saxon words for precisely those things, and it wasn’t until society arbitrarily decided they were impolite that they were viewed as anything other than regular words. Naturally, as soon as polite society outlawed the open use of such words, they were all endowed with the ability to turn us on more than they had ever done previously.

Of course, some people really do think that sex itself is a dirty subject, and some people consider even married sex to be a waste of time unless the couple in question are trying to have children. Okay, maybe such people will concede that it’s acceptable to have a bit of missionary once a month “as a token”, but even mention oral sex, anal sex, mutual masturbation or handcuffs and they will look at you as if you need locking away.

In a way, this isn’t such a bad thing, because it can add a hue of teenage rebellion to married sex that keeps us feeling young and daring. “How many other married couples fuck as hot and hard as we do?” we might ask ourselves in a self-congratulatory way. The fact is that millions of other married couples are just as hot and hard in the bedroom, but because society likes to keep such facts away from the public consciousness, we all end up feeling a bit unique and rather proud.

That being the case, I suggest you forget everything I just said. Married couples should be pure and wholesome, not having dirty, filthy, nasty sex. And if you do have dirty, filthy, nasty sex with all of that cock-sucking and pussy-licking business, you’re depraved and should be flogged. And whatever you do, don’t think about cumming hard tonight in that bedroom of yours – it’s just wrong, I tell you…

The sex escort fantasy is a great role-play for married couples to use when one partner is not quite as turned on as the other, but both would like to be in the same hot mood. The basic idea is that the partner who isn’t quite as aroused adopts the role of a sex escort and agrees to deliver the hottest sexual service their spouse can demand – if the price is right.

Yes, I’m suggesting that you talk about money, just as you would if it were a real sex escort situation. Money doesn’t have to change hands, but acting as if it will gives you good reason to talk about what the “client” spouse wants and how much the “escort” spouse will charge for such a service. And talking about hot sex in what is, for a regular marriage, a fairly unusual scenario (not many couples I know have ever even met a sex escort, let alone been serviced by one), can often be a massive turn-on for both participants. Consider the following scenario…

“So, how much?”

“That depends. What do you want?”

“What do you offer?

“Blow job and hand job, clothed or naked. A blow job is £40. A hand job is £30. Full sex for an hour will cost you one £100. Anal sex is an extra £50. Role play with uniforms is also £50 extra.”

“What else?”

“You want something else?”

“I might.”

“Well, tell me what it is and I’ll give you price.”

“Okay, let’s say I want you to….”

You get the idea. Discussing the sex escort deal in advance of the main event will not only make the role play more realistic, it will also increase the arousal of both you and your spouse. In fact, the spouse playing the escort role could well be just as turned on as the one playing the client role by the time the two of you get to the bedroom.

And once you’re there, all you have to do is make sure is that the service promised is the service delivered. Money might not actually change hands, but a deal is a deal…