Hot Married Sex

In an effort to keep things fresh here at Hot Married Sex, today’s post is a piece of erotica for women. It’s explicit and might not be to the taste of everyone, so don’t say you haven’t been warned. Comments are welcome. Enjoy!

So you’re sitting there in front of your computer reading my blog. I knew you would. I know how you like to check up on me and see what I’m writing. You might pretend to be prim and proper on the outside, but what goes on inside that pretty head of yours is a very different story.

In the privacy of your own mind you have all sorts of dirty thoughts. In fact, you’re a bit of a dirty little slut, aren’t you? Don’t worry, I won’t tell.

I like to imagine you reading these words. I like to imagine watching you. You’re sat there with your legs slightly open. Open them a bit wider so that I can get a better view. That’s right. Hmmm. So tempting…

How does it feel when I kneel down in front of you, place one hand on each of your knees and force your legs apart even further? I lean forward and kiss the fabric of your panties, nuzzling your crotch. I run the tip of my tongue along the edge of your panties, then maybe pull them aside when you least expect it.

You like me to circle your clit with my tongue, don’t you? To suck, gently at first, and then a little harder. My hands support your ass, lifting you slightly so that I can work your pussy more effectively with my mouth, my tongue running along your groove and then suddenly probing your opening.

You like being tongue-fucked, I can tell, but I’m not here to serve. I’m here to give you the pleasure of being used. I stand up and unbutton my jeans, then unzip my fly. I grab the back of your head and pull you toward my crotch as I bring my erect cock out to play. I don’t wait for you to give your permission, I just slide my cock into your hot mouth and start thrusting slowly, my hand still supporting your head.

Hmmm. You’re greedy. You’re taking it so deep that you make the occasional gagging noise, and your eyes are watering. Black rivulets of mascara are running down your cheeks. Makes you look like a common whore.

And you like that, don’t you?

I withdraw from your mouth, pull you to your feet and make you stand over your desk with your hands palm-down on the surface. Behind you, I take a look at the sumptuous curves of your ass and lift your skirt, then pull your panties down and let them fall to your ankles. I enter you quickly, perhaps a little roughly, grabbing a handful of your hair with my left hand as my thrusting establishes a rhythm.

You like being taken like this. You can’t see me because of my position, but you can certainly feel my cock driving into you again and again.

Harder.

Faster.

Deeper.

I reach around and find your clit with my right hand, rubbing you hard and fast as my cock continues to shaft your hot, tight pussy. Rubbing in small circles, you begin writhing until you feel the warm wave of your orgasm exploding through your body.

I wait for your climax to subside, then withdraw and turn you around. A hand on your shoulder pushes you down onto your knees and I quickly bring my penis back to your lips, then slide it over the surface of your tongue into your mouth.

Finish me, bitch.

That’s right. Work it like a pro. Let me hold your head as I fuck your face. I’m gonna cum any minute. I’m gonna –

I grunt as the urge to shoot in your mouth overwhelms me and you immediately start sucking me dry. You have an evil glint in your eye that tells me you love the sense of power and control that this gives you. For a long moment, I’m putty in your hands, and you know it. When you’re done, you lick your lips salaciously and pat me on the ass before tidying yourself up and getting on with your business.

Now who’s been using who? I wonder…

Erotic photography can be a turn-on for many married couples, and I’m not really talking about just looking at it. Actually grabbing a camera and taking erotic pictures of each other in various states of dress and/or undress can do wonders for the libido.

Exactly why erotic photography is so powerful a tool is difficult to pinpoint. Some people simply like the idea of their spouse getting turned on by looking at them – it makes them feel more desirable and, yes, maybe they get a thrill from being viewed as an “object of lust”. Others find that posing for erotic shots makes them feel more confident as a sexual being. And still others like the whole “power play” of directing or being directed to pose in a certain way, adopt a certain look, and so on.

If you and your spouse would like to consider exploring erotic photography, here are some suggestions to get you started:

Make sure you’re both keen. Taking erotic photos is only a turn-on if you both enjoy it. If one of you doesn’t want to take photos, drop the whole subject and find something that you’re both keen to try. There will be plenty of other ideas presented in this blog so come back often or subscribe to our RSS feed for inspiration.

Decide what kind of photos you want to take. Do you want to take pictures of each other, or will just one of you be the model? Clothed, semi-clothed or nude? Do you want the pictures to be softcore and erotic or hardcore and explicit? There are no right or wrong answers to these questions, but establishing your goal at the outset will ensure that you proceed accordingly.

Use a digital camera. If you only have a camera with film then buy a digital camera and any accessories you might need (our own Hot Married Sex store has a HOME MOVIES page that might be helpful) otherwise you might blush when you collect your pictures after processing.

Enjoy the photography. Most couples enjoy taking the photos more than looking at them afterwards, so enjoy the experience fully. Get into the fun of it, get turned on and – as if you needed any encouragement – have great sex afterwards.

Review and purge. After you have taken your first batch of photos, review them together and decide which ones are keepers and which ones you want to delete. Continually reviewing and purging older photos whenever you take new ones is a good way of ensuring you don’t end up with thousands of images when you only want a few dozen.

Store your photos securely. The keepers should be stored securely – a USB pen drive can be handy for this, as it can be kept in your bedside drawer. If you decide to store your photos on the drive of your main PC, put them in a secure folder and don’t forget to delete them if you sell the computer at a later date, otherwise you could end up more famous than you might like.

Erotic photography is more about attitude than looks. Few of us have “Perfect 10” physiques, and in reality few of us find Perfect 10’s very appealing, so if you have the desire to take erotic pictures with your spouse, go for it. Who knows? You might even progress to making home movies…

Talking dirty is one of the simplest yet most powerful ways to better sex that I know of, but what exactly is it, why does it work and how can we make it more effective. Those are the questions I want to explore here.

Dirty talk can best be defined as “sexually provocative language”. In other words, it’s language that we use to try and provoke a heightened sexual response in our partner. Note the way I slipped the word “try” in that last sentence. I did that because not all forms of dirty talk will be considered provocative to all people.

Calling one woman “a fucking slut” in the middle of sex may drive her wild. Calling another woman the same could well result in a slap across the face and a sudden period of enforced celibacy. The same applies when women attempt to talk dirty with their husbands. A woman who says “fuck me like a whore!” might get a great response from one type of guy, and no response at all from another.

For dirty talk to be effective, it needs to be tailored to the person who is going to hear it. Obviously you know your spouse better than anyone, so take a moment to think about the kind of things that are likely to drive them wild in bed and formulate a plan to make your dirty talk as effective and mutually satisfying as possible.

Questions To Ponder

What kind of words does your spouse use? What do they say when they refer to a pussy, cock or the act of having sex? When you have clarified this (we all know but seldom think about it) it makes sense to use the same words when talking dirty – unless you know that coming out with a stronger word at the right moment will send your husband or wife over the edge.

What tone of voice does your partner like? Tonality, accent and pronunciation can be just as important as actual content, so be aware of not only what you say, but also of how you say it. Would your husband want you to whisper “fuck me harder” or to scream it out loud? Would your wife want you to moan “God yeah” quietly or to hiss “God, yeah!” through gritted teeth?

What scenarios turn your spouse on? Knowing this can help you tailor your talk so that it presses their buttons. If your husband likes it when you act like a porn star, you can talk like one (watch a few movies for inspiration if you need to). If your wife likes to fantasise that she’s been hired as your escort for the night, talk to her as if that’s the case.

The point here is that the most effective way of using dirty talk to drive your spouse wild is by giving them what they most desire. You will get turned on the more they get turned on, so you both win and hot sex is virtually guaranteed.

Is pornography an aid or an obstacle as far as having hot married sex is concerned? This is a question that many people ask, but the short answer is that there is no short answer. Whether porn enhances a relationship or otherwise depends on the individuals involved in the marriage and what their perceptions of porn are to begin with.

Couples who agree that porn is harmless fun can get a great deal out of porn. They can use it together to increase libido, maybe learn a few tricks and spark a hot, steamy session that brings them closer.

Couples who agree that porn isn’t harmless fun – for whatever reason – can choose to avoid it and find other ways of increasing their libido, expanding their sexual repertoires and keep sex hot and exciting.

The only couples who might have some difficulty with porn is where one partner is really into it and the other isn’t. In this scenario I believe the spouse who is enthusiastic about porn has to discuss the issue with their partner. There are a couple of questions that could be asked:

What is your partner’s definition of porn? It could be that they assume all porn is hardcore to the extreme and involves peanut butter pony play in gimp masks. If so, they might still feel comfortable watching much gentler porn with a plot that provides a more romantic context.

How would they feel about you watching porn in private from time to time? If it’s an issue for them you need to find out so that you can respect the wishes of your spouse and keep your marriage strong and healthy. Watching porn in secret may give you a thrill in the short term, but if the cost is marital peace and harmony, I’d say the short term thrill would come at far too big a price.

What alternatives to porn would your partner be willing to explore? How about verbal porn, where you both create your own scenarios? Or maybe reading explicit fiction to each other would provide all the thrill you need to pep up your sex life?

This is a big subject, so I will be revisiting it in the near future. For now, I’d conclude that porn isn’t actually necessary for a married couple to have hot sex, but that it does help many – especially when they’ve been together for years and know every inch of each other intimately.

And for those of you who want to explore the world of non-porn sexual video (yes, there really is such a thing!) I suggest you take a look at My Beautiful Agony and I Feel Myself. You may be surprised at just how arousing non-porn can be!