Hot Married Sex

Virtual sex is something that seems to be increasingly common, thanks in no small part to online worlds such as Second Life. These allow you to adopt an on-screen persona known as an avatar and enjoy a virtual life in a surprisingly well rendered 3D environment. With the content of the virtual world being created by the users themselves, it isn’t a shock to discover that sex plays as big a part of virtual life as it does real life.

Someone who is totally new to virtual worlds might be surprised to learn that in a place like Second Life you can visit strip clubs, hire escorts, explore BDSM dungeons, take in a porn movie or simply meet a girlfriend and get jiggy in the privacy of your own virtual home. Players can even get married in Second Life.

With full support for voice chat on private channels as well as text chat, virtual sex in a world like Second Life can be likened to animated phone sex. And whilst many married couples would consider such virtual sex to be tantamount to cheating if their spouse got involved with a third party, couples can play the game together and explore their sexual fantasies in a whole new way.

If you have two computers in the house, you could both log onto Second Life, spend a little time making your avatars look attractive (the “noob” look isn’t very appealing) and then experience various sexual scenarios with each other. Fancy having sex outdoors with a dozen or more people watching? There are open sex areas where you can do just that. Want to have a more romantic experience in a virtual ballroom (perhaps because you have kids who make the real thing impossible right now)? You can do that to. In fact, as long as it’s legal and consenting, there’s nothing you can’t do in Second Life.

Virtual sex isn’t for everyone by any means, and after dabbling for a while my wife and I discovered we preferred having a good old-fashioned conversation. That said, we did enjoy playing with slave / master scenarios, being naughty in public and making our avatars as sexually brazen as possible. And, as a form of high-tech foreplay, the game was quite effective.

Of course, Second Life isn’t all about sex, and there’s lots of other things that you and your spouse can do in this virtual world. Make friends from around the world, go for a walk through a rain forest, visit Amsterdam, New York, Paris or Venice. If you can imagine it, the chances are you can do it.

Creating a Second Life character and playing the game costs nothing (though you may want to upgrade your account for a few dollars so that you can buy your own land if you intend to play long term) so if you fancy experiencing virtual sex with your spouse just to see what it’s like, you can do so. Simply visit the Second Life web site to get started.

Uniform sex is a term used to describe sex where one or both partners is dressed in a role-play outfit that the other finds arousing. Common uniforms used for sex games between a husband and wife include police, naval, nursing and military uniforms, nun’s habits, French maid costumes and dominatrix outfits.

Although simply wearing a uniform might be enough to turn your partner on, for uniform sex to be most satisfying the person wearing it should try to adopt the persona and characteristics of the character they are portraying. Think of yourself as an actor or actress who is about to play a part, and when you step into your uniform, step into character.

Some couples like the idea of having sex in uniform, but aren’t confident in their ability to “carry it off” in terms of personality and character. It is for those readers that I offer my four-step quick-and-easy guide to acting in sex uniform scenarios:

1 – Identify A Role Model
First, think of someone who really is like the character that you want to portray, For example, if you want to wear a saucy French maid uniform, think of any saucy French maids you have seen on television or in movies.

2 – Identify Their Traits
Having found a role model, study them and identify the main traits that make them what they are. How do they talk? How do they walk? How do they use their eyes? What body language do they use? You can discover all of this from watching the television shows or movies that your chosen role model character appears in. Think of this as acting class.

3 – Adopt A New Name
Next, adopt a new name that is more in keeping with your character. If your own name would suit the role then by all means stick with it, otherwise choose a name that fits the uniform. This will help both you and your partner to view the character as being real.

4 – Be Your Role Model
Now it’s time to put everything together so that you and your partner can enjoy some hot uniform sex. To do this, put on the outfit and – as you do – imagine yourself stepping into the shoes of the role model you selected previously. Talk the way they talk, walk the way they walk, use your eyes and body language in the same way, and so on. Also, make sure that your partner has been instructed to view you as the character (and not their spouse) whenever you are in uniform. The more you can both immerse yourself in the game, the more satisfying it will be.

Uniform sex takes a little planning and preparation, but if you and your partner are willing to suspend disbelief and play along with each other, it can be a great fantasy experience. Fancy having sex with a member of the police force, a doctor or nurse or a television newsreader without breaking those marriage vows? Well, now you can. So the question is, who are you going to be tonight?

The sex escort fantasy is a great role-play for married couples to use when one partner is not quite as turned on as the other, but both would like to be in the same hot mood. The basic idea is that the partner who isn’t quite as aroused adopts the role of a sex escort and agrees to deliver the hottest sexual service their spouse can demand – if the price is right.

Yes, I’m suggesting that you talk about money, just as you would if it were a real sex escort situation. Money doesn’t have to change hands, but acting as if it will gives you good reason to talk about what the “client” spouse wants and how much the “escort” spouse will charge for such a service. And talking about hot sex in what is, for a regular marriage, a fairly unusual scenario (not many couples I know have ever even met a sex escort, let alone been serviced by one), can often be a massive turn-on for both participants. Consider the following scenario…

“So, how much?”

“That depends. What do you want?”

“What do you offer?

“Blow job and hand job, clothed or naked. A blow job is £40. A hand job is £30. Full sex for an hour will cost you one £100. Anal sex is an extra £50. Role play with uniforms is also £50 extra.”

“What else?”

“You want something else?”

“I might.”

“Well, tell me what it is and I’ll give you price.”

“Okay, let’s say I want you to….”

You get the idea. Discussing the sex escort deal in advance of the main event will not only make the role play more realistic, it will also increase the arousal of both you and your spouse. In fact, the spouse playing the escort role could well be just as turned on as the one playing the client role by the time the two of you get to the bedroom.

And once you’re there, all you have to do is make sure is that the service promised is the service delivered. Money might not actually change hands, but a deal is a deal…

The key to hot sex in a marriage isn’t stamina, technique, setting, fantasy or fetish (although all of those things can and probably will play a part) but something much more fundamental: communication. Put simply, the better you and your spouse are able to communicate with each other, the more enjoyable and fulfilling your sex life will be.

This sounds obvious, right? But many couples hardly talk about sex in an open and adult manner. Instead, they tend to try and second-guess each other, making assumptions about what their spouse likes without every bothering to find out if any of those assumptions are accurate.

If you want to have some of the best, mind-blowing sex of your married life, you need to start communicating about the topic. Here are some tips to get you started:

Pick Your Moment
Starting a conversation about sex whilst queuing at the supermarket checkout or doing the dishes probably won’t be very effective. Instead, pick your moment so that you know you will both be relaxed and in a fun mood. Dim the lights, get comfortable and – if you like – crack open a bottle of wine.

Ask Questions
Take it in turn to ask each other questions that you’d like the answers to. We currently have a sex questions game in development here at Hot Married Sex that we will tell you about as soon as it is available, but for now you can use any questions that come to mind. Here are some examples:

• What is your favourite sexual act?
• What is your favourite position?
• What word turns you on more than any other?
• What was the last sexual fantasy you had?

Be sure to take it in turns asking each other questions so that communication develops. If you ignore this advice the whole exercise could feel like an interrogation for the person being questioned.

Be Honest
When answering questions that your spouse asks you, always be honest. Of course, you should always be sensitive to their feelings, but as far as possible, speak the plain truth. If you fantasise about your spouse being more dominant or submissive in bed, say so. If you like it when they moan obscenities during sex, specify which ones turn you on the most. The more honest and open you can be when playing this conversation game, the more you will get out of it.

By making communication like this a regular part of your life, you and your spouse will soon learn more about each other than you ever imagined possible. Even if you’ve been married for twenty years, this exercise will help unlock the kind of dynamic sexual energy you might not have thought possible. Just talking about sex in such a frank way will probably turn you on, and that’s great. But why not then start incorporating some of the things you learn in these conversations into your sex life? If you do this, you’re guaranteed to take things to a whole new level.