Hot Married Sex

Screaming orgasms might sound like the title of a porn movie, but a screaming orgasm is actually a goal that many couples aspire to achieve. I suppose a screaming orgasm could best be defined as an orgasm so powerful that the lady in question can’t help but make a particularly loud noise, but men can experience the same kind of intensity too – we just tend to grunt rather than squeal.

There is nothing that can guarantee a screaming orgasm (other than getting the wife to deliberately scream when it happens, which is cheating) but there are several steps we can take to make it more likely. I’m writing here primarily for men who want to help their wives experience a screamer, but women who are reading can just as easily apply the same principles to help their husbands crank up the volume when they cum.

Build Up
A screaming orgasm is much more likely if the build up to that orgasm has been lengthy. I don’t just mean 30 or 60 minutes of foreplay, I mean hours of teasing throughout the day. Use dirty talk to get you wife revved up to the point of dampness. Maybe use a little manual stimulation to bring her to the very edge. Then back off until she cools off. Do this several times throughout the day and by the time she gets to bed she should be almost ready to climb the walls.

Avoid The Obvious
When you finally get to the bedroom, you should avoid getting straight down to business. By all means stroke the insides of her thighs, and circle your finger around her clit, but don’t actually push her button or make contact where she wants you to make contact. A good rule of thumb is to spend 15 minutes of foreplay caressing her everywhere except where she really wants to be caressed. It sounds like torture, and it probably is, but it’s a very loving and erotic kind of torture that she will ultimately appreciate.

Take Several Runs
When you feel the time is right, do whatever you normally do to get your wife off. If she has any preferences about how she prefers to orgasm, go for her favourite. Some women like to come through intercourse. Many more would prefer you to practice your muff-diving skills. Others like oral and digital stimulation combined, so both your tongue and your fingers should get involved.

However you go for it, bring her to the edge of orgasm and then stop dead. Withdraw your cock, withdraw your fingers and come up for air. Let the moment subside. Then start again, bringing her to the edge and backing off. Do this several times. If she begins calling you names and writhing like a snake, you know you’re doing it right.

The Big Finish
Having taken several runs at the objective, it’s now time to go for the big finish, but don’t tell her “this is it” or you’ll spoil the element of surprise. Repeat whatever you did in the previous step (that is, deliver her favourite form of stimulation) but this time keep going until he reaches her climax. And keep on going. Continuing to stimulate your wife as she orgasms can often extend that orgasm quite considerably, so don’t stop until she’s totally spent.

You might not help your wife to have screaming orgasms every time you use the ideas presented here, but you’ll certainly help her to achieve orgasms that make her want to scream. And in my book, that’s just as good.

I like having hot married sex on most nights, but there’s always something special about our Friday night activities. There are occasional exceptions, but in most cases the sex is hotter, the sessions go on for longer and the orgasms are more intense. Yep, there’s nothing to beat some Friday night filth.

Maybe it’s the fact that the working week is over and all that stands in front of me is the prospect of a relaxing weekend. Maybe it’s the extra glass of wine or two that I allow myself to indulge in. Or maybe it’s just because my wife and I agreed a few years ago to deliberately make Friday nights our “fuck nights”.

Okay, before you go getting the idea that we only used to have sex once a week, let me scramble to discredit that notion. The fact is that a few years ago our two kids were more exhausting than they are now, and at the end of some days we’d both be so knackered (that’s “tired” for all my non-British readers) that we lusted after sleep more than sex. After a couple of particularly challenging weeks we realised that we’d only had sex once, and that wasn’t good for either of us. So we made a pact and declared that Friday night was Fuck Night, no matter what happened.

The surprising thing was that as soon as we made the pact to set Friday night aside for fucking, we started getting a bit more creative. Even though we were quickly back into the swing of having sex on Mondays, Tuesdays, Wednesdays and on any other days, we both began planning how we could make Friday night the “big one”. And the more we planned and anticipated that particular session, the better it got.

These days we have sex on most nights (kids do get less exhausting eventually), but Friday night is still the “big one” despite the fact that all of the other nights have got increasingly hotter over the years.

So, here I am, writing my daily blog entry at just before 3:40 in the afternoon, and the prospect of tonight’s activities is something that I can’t get out of my head. My mind is gradually becoming overwhelmed with thoughts of pinning her down, calling her names, bringing her to the point of orgasm and then stopping abruptly before eventually allowing her to reach it and fall over the edge. (She says she hates me teasing her like that but then comments that her O’s are always stronger when I do, so I read between the lines and take the hint.)

Yes, I’ll wake up tomorrow morning and look forward to Saturday night sex, but you can bet your life that I’ll be planning our Friday Night Filth for next week even before the milk hits my Cornflakes.

Do you have a “big one” to look forward to each week? If not, feel free to steal this idea and create your own night of Friday Night Filth. Or be more creative and go for Sunday Night Screaming, Monday Night Muff-Diving, Tuesday Night Teasing, Wednesday Night Whipping, Thursday Night Throbbing…

Sexual tension plays a big role in the ability to enjoy hot sex over a lifetime with your spouse. My very simple equation is Quantity of Tension = Temperature of Sex. Bear with me and I’ll explain what I mean.

When a couple get together for the first time, there’s a lot of sexual tension because they hardly know each other, and they are total strangers sexually. The sex therefore tends to be pretty hot and memorable even if it’s fairly straightforward as far a sexual positions and variety is concerned.

Then, as the couple get to know each other more, the sexual tension begins to wane a bit, because tension is fuelled by surprise. The more you know your partner, the fewer surprises you can look forward to, the lower the tension and the more lukewarm the sex becomes.

Now, don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing at all wrong with lukewarm sex if it makes you both feel comfortable, and it’s way better than having no sex at all. But there is a danger that if things get too predictable you will start viewing sex itself as a rather meaningless act of “going through the motions” – of having sex out of habit more than out of any real desire.

If a couple has a major disagreement, particularly if it threatens the relationship itself, sexual tension skyrockets. A relationship that you thought was stable suddenly isn’t. A person you thought you knew so well that you could predict their every word and deed has thrown you a curve ball. You’re surprised, dammit! And even though you might be as angry as hell with your partner during the disagreement itself, if you make up and go to bed, the sex will usually be as hot as the tension that preceded it.

So what’s my point? Well, I’m not advising couples to start arguments with each other just to have better sex, because in the long term that’s asking for trouble (though you’d be surprised at how many people deliberately pick arguments for that very purpose) but we can increase sexual tension in other ways that are nothing but helpful to your relationship.

Interested in knowing more? Stay tuned for tomorrow’s post…

Hot sex is not the kind of term that is particularly self-explanatory, because we all have our own ideas of what hot sex means. For one couple, having sex with the lights on might represent the pinnacle of hotness. For another, sex might only be viewed as hot if it involves bondage rope, two bottles of lube, nipple clamps and a butt plug.

My own definition of hot sex is: “any sex that is so involving that you aren’t aware of anything else”. It’s that state of sexual frenzy where you temporarily forget about your job, your tax return and maybe even your marital status. When you’re having hot sex, all that matters is the sex itself, and your senses are so enthralled by the experience of the moment that you’re able to actually lose yourself in it.

I tend to differentiate between having hot sex and making love, because – for me – making love means having sex consciously. When I make love with my wife I’m thinking about her in a deliberate way, and sex just happens to be the tool I use to express those thoughts.

Making love is nice, now and again, but both myself and my wife prefer hot sex to making love any day of the week. The energy is stronger, the connection actually seems deeper and the orgasms tend to be more powerful.

Your definition of hot sex may well be different from mine, but I thought it might be useful to explain how I use the term here at Hot Married Sex.

So, what are your thoughts on hot sex? What’s hot for you and why?

Sexy Couple Role Play is one of the best short movies I’ve seen online for a long while. As well as being as funny as hell, it illustrates the potential for things going wrong when you use role play to spice up your sex life. Okay, it’s not likely to happen in real life, but I had to write something here. If you like what you see, check out other g14 Productions at Youtube.