Hot Married Sex

Many people say that they would like to have sex more often than they do right now, and the good news is that having more sex is quite easy. All you have to do is forget about the frequency and focus on improving the quality of the sex you already have. If you do this, both of you will naturally want to have hot sex more often.

The problem for too many couples is that the sex they have is rudimentary, repetitive and boring. This being the case, it isn’t surprising that it only takes place once a week or once a month. But when the sex is hot, varied and exciting, both partners will want to enjoy it more often. In other words, if you look after the quality, the quantity will take care of itself.

The biggest enemy of hot sex is routine. Even the hottest sexual scenario which originally makes him hard and her damp at the sheer mention of it will lose its appeal if it is repeated over and over with no variety. You should therefore make an effort to shake things up on a regular basis, and avoid doing the same thing twice in one week. If you can avoid doing the same thing twice in a month, so much the better.

Married couples have so many options when it comes to having hot sex that achieving this isn’t as difficult as it might sound. You can role play a dozen different scenarios, have sex in at least half a dozen different places and try scores of sexual positions. One day she can be Miss Scarlet in the kitchen with the whipped cream, and the next time he can be Colonel Shafter in the bedroom with the blindfold. You can take erotic photographs or videos of each other, talk dirty, or even take the wedding dress out of storage and rediscover the erotic potential of the good old-fashioned missionary position. Make as much noise as you can during sex on one day, and try to be totally silent the next… I could continue listing different ways of making sex varied and novel, but if you don’t get the idea by now then you aren’t paying attention.

Unless one partner has a medical problem which causes low libido (in which case a visit to the doctors is in order) most couples can enjoy more sex by forgetting about frequency and focusing on making the sex that they do have as hot as varied as possible, as just described.

Hot sex is a great stress management tool, and by making sure that you enjoy hot sex on a regular basis, you can dramatically decrease the chances of being overwhelmed by the trials tensions of daily life. Some people rely on pills and potions to keep their stress levels under control, but hot sex is a much more natural – and arguably much safer – alternative.

We all know that physical exercise helps to reduce stress, but few people remember that hot sex – sex that gets your heart racing – is just as much a form of exercise as swimming, jogging or using a Stairmaster. Okay, you might not burn quite as many calories in bed as you would on a treadmill, but you will still increase your heart rate, release feel-good chemicals (endorphins) and burn up the feel-bad chemical cortisol.

I know that if I go more than a couple of days without having sex, I get stressed very easily. I also know that when I get stressed I feel less like having sex. This is a common situation, but if you aren’t aware of it you could well find yourself in a place where you never feel like having sex and you think the solution is to wait until you feel less stressed. Lots of couples fall into this trap, and as a result they can go for weeks, months or even years without sex, eventually concluding that “sex is overrated anyway” and settling for a life of celibacy by default.

There’s nothing wrong with celibacy if it’s a deliberate lifestyle choice and you happen to be single, but in a marriage sex is a very important glue that helps to hold the relationship together, so allowing stress to slowly dissolve that glue is potentially allowing the relationship itself to weaken.

If regular sex helps to relieve stress and keep a marriage strong, whilst irregular sex allows stress to build up and can put the marriage at risk over the long term, it makes sense to take sex seriously. So be wise and make a point of enjoying hot sex regularly with your spouse. Remember, a hot fuck a day keeps the Prozac at bay…

Sexual Magnetism is a quality that some people have which makes you start thinking all kinds of hot, nasty, sinful thoughts as soon as you lay eyes on them. It’s sexual magnetism that gets the libido racing, makes panties damp and turns a flaccid penis into a raging hard-on.

The really good news is that anyone can increase the amount of sexual magnetism they radiate. All you have to do is follow a few simple tips. So, if the idea of silently compelling your spouse to desire you like never before is one that appeals to you, work through my step-by-step guide and make it happen…

Get Confident
First, realise that sexual magnetism is all about self-confidence. You can’t be sexually magnetic if you aren’t confident, so get yourself into a strong, confident frame of mind. Know that you’re sexy and desirable. If you don’t believe that to be true, imagine how confident you would feel if it were true. Once you’ve got that feeling, hang onto it and pretend it’s yours. Act confident and you’ll feel confident.

Magnify Your Magnetism
Next, make sure you dress the part. Sexual magnetism is magnified if you present yourself properly. Whilst a strong force of magnetism will shine through even a pair of old dungarees, putting it in a pair of stockings and heels (for women) or a smart shirt and chinos (for men) will increase the effect it has on the people around you.

Unleash Your Inner Porn Star
Now that you feel confident and look confident, you need to make sure your walk and talk make the grade. Porn stars can use their body language and speech to radiate sex even when they’re not on set, and you can do the same. Unleash your inner porn star so that you move and communicate like someone who the whole world wants to get into bed with and you’ll soon notice that your spouse is a lot more interested than usual.

Employ Innuendo
Sexually magnetic people are masters of innuendo, and they can use a conversation about anything to put explicit thoughts in your head. Start employing the art of innuendo yourself by using words and phrases that can just as easily be associated with sexuality as they can with the subject at hand. For example:

Innuendo for Men

I guess you’ll just have to suck it and see.
You’re a real handful sometimes.
Yes, I know it’s hard, but sometimes hard is good.
There’s nothing wrong with be open.

Innuendo for Women

Sorry. If I do that again, just bend me over and spank me.
Is it as hard as it looks?
Did you want to come too?
We should turn the TV off and turn something else on instead.

Follow the four tips I have presented here and you will not only increase the amount of sexual magnetism you radiate, you will also notice a surge in the libido of your spouse. What happens next is up to you….

I came across this humorous video on YouTube and I thought it was a great illustration of miscommunication in marriage and how it can lead to sexual frustration. The video is actually a commercial for a telecommunications company, so it’s safe viewing for anyone.

Sex and the brain are intimately linked. In fact, we’ve all heard that the brain is the biggest erogenous zone in the body of both men and women. What this means is that if you don’t turn your brain on, you’ll have a hard time turning anything else on. Here are three secrets of Erotic Psychology that you can use to help put yourself in the mood…

See Yourself As An Object Of Lust
No matter how long you have been married, self-confidence is the most attractive quality you can have.  The more you can project an aura of confidence, the more erotically appealing you will be.  All you need to start experiencing and projecting this high level of confidence is the right mindset.  Simply imagine as vividly as possible that you are sexy and desirable. Get into the habit of doing this several times each day and you will automatically conduct yourself in a sexier, more attractive way. Not only will this make you feel more like having hot sex, it will also make your spouse feel like it too.

Generate Sexual Energy
The more you think about sex before the actual event, the more sexual energy you generate, resulting in bigger, more powerful orgasms when that energy is finally released.  You should therefore make a point of deliberately thinking about sex several times throughout the day, perhaps by reading an explicit book or magazine (see this page for our recommendations), thinking about your lover or simply losing yourself for a few minutes in a favourite erotic fantasy.  If you do this regularly, you will find that your sexual energy – and the level of satisfaction you experience – increases dramatically,

Give As Though You’re Getting Paid For It
When you’re finally between the sheets, act as if you and your spouse are getting paid an enormous amount of money for your efforts.  Either take it in turns to role-play being an escort to each other, or imagine that you’re both being filmed for what will be the most erotic movie ever made.  Both attitudes will make you a more attentive, proactive lover, and your partner is likely to reciprocate with an equal amount of focus and enthusiasm.  Enjoy!