Hot Married Sex

Sexual polarity is a simple concept that couples can use to make their relationships more exciting, intense and passionate. Note that I said relationships rather than sex lives. This is because sexual polarity plays just as large a role in daily life as it does in the bedroom.

The term sexual polarity refers to the two opposing ends of the masculine-feminine spectrum, and the concept that you can use to improve your relationship is this: opposites attract much more than those who are of a similar polarity. For example, if you are an extremely masculine man, you will be more attracted to an extremely feminine woman than you will to a masculine woman. Similarly, if you are a very feminine woman, you will be more attracted to a very masculine man than you will to an effeminate one.

Isn’t that common sense? Well, yes and no. Yes, because it’s a concept that has been at work (even if not defined) since the dawn of mankind. And no, because far too many couples complain about losing the “spark” in their marriage without considering whether this sexual polarity principle has been broken. And if you aren’t aware of it, the principle gets broken all the time.

Consider a very masculine man who marries a very feminine woman. As the years pass, the woman becomes stronger and more independent. She is used to being in charge at work, and brings that skill home to organise the household and family. At the same time, the man learns to soften his approach to life, communicates more openly about his feelings and even discovers that he enjoys cooking meals for the kids. All of this is good stuff in one context, but because both partners are moving towards each other on the sexual polarity scale, passion in the relationship will automatically decline.

You may think that I am being rather old fashioned here, and deserve the wrath of a thousand feminists, but I am not. The same sexual polarity principle applies to so-called fem-dom relationships where the female enjoys dominating the male and the male enjoys submitting to the female. In these situations, the passion is at its strongest when the female displays the maximum masculine trait of domination and the male displays the maximum female trait of submission. If the man suddenly gets more pushy, or the woman gets more lenient, the dynamic of the relationship changes automatically.

Now I am not saying that we should all choose one end of the spectrum and stick to it rigidly. It’s important for men to acknowledge their feminine side, and just as important for women to acknowledge their masculine side. What I am saying is that being aware of this sexual polarity concept can help you to identify if your relationship could be improved by adjusting the balance a little.

For example, if you know that you and your partner are more like buddies than polar opposites on the sexual polarity scale, you can take steps to move in opposite directions and brace yourselves for the increase in passion and intensity that will automatically follow. I will present some concrete ideas on how to do this tomorrow. Until then, have a think about the sexual polarity scale and try to identify where you and your partner appear on it. Then mark the scale to reflect where you both were when you got married. We will use that information tomorrow.

Many people say that they would like to have sex more often than they do right now, and the good news is that having more sex is quite easy. All you have to do is forget about the frequency and focus on improving the quality of the sex you already have. If you do this, both of you will naturally want to have hot sex more often.

The problem for too many couples is that the sex they have is rudimentary, repetitive and boring. This being the case, it isn’t surprising that it only takes place once a week or once a month. But when the sex is hot, varied and exciting, both partners will want to enjoy it more often. In other words, if you look after the quality, the quantity will take care of itself.

The biggest enemy of hot sex is routine. Even the hottest sexual scenario which originally makes him hard and her damp at the sheer mention of it will lose its appeal if it is repeated over and over with no variety. You should therefore make an effort to shake things up on a regular basis, and avoid doing the same thing twice in one week. If you can avoid doing the same thing twice in a month, so much the better.

Married couples have so many options when it comes to having hot sex that achieving this isn’t as difficult as it might sound. You can role play a dozen different scenarios, have sex in at least half a dozen different places and try scores of sexual positions. One day she can be Miss Scarlet in the kitchen with the whipped cream, and the next time he can be Colonel Shafter in the bedroom with the blindfold. You can take erotic photographs or videos of each other, talk dirty, or even take the wedding dress out of storage and rediscover the erotic potential of the good old-fashioned missionary position. Make as much noise as you can during sex on one day, and try to be totally silent the next… I could continue listing different ways of making sex varied and novel, but if you don’t get the idea by now then you aren’t paying attention.

Unless one partner has a medical problem which causes low libido (in which case a visit to the doctors is in order) most couples can enjoy more sex by forgetting about frequency and focusing on making the sex that they do have as hot as varied as possible, as just described.

How to spice up your sex life is a question that lots of people are asking. I am fortunate that I enjoy a hot married sex life, but I know that there are plenty of couples who don’t. So, for the benefit of those who want hotter married sex, today’s post provides a number of tips on how to spice things up.

To start with, define exactly how you want your sex life to improve. Do you just want more married sex? Or do you want to be more adventurous? Maybe you want to try and unleash the “slut wife” that you believe is hiding within your spouse. Or perhaps you want sex with your husband to be more aggressive and less pedestrian. Whatever the case, knowing what you want is the best place to begin.

Once you have defined what you want, ask yourself if your husband or wife has ever been that way before. For example, if you want your husband to be more dominant in bed, ask yourself if he’s ever been dominant in bed. If he has, try and figure out what triggered him to be like that, and then work on creating a similar situation that might trigger him to dominate you in the same way. The same applies for men. If your wife has previously revealed a slutty side, ask yourself what triggered it and then work on triggering it again in a similar way. Sometimes the simple act of deliberately pushing the buttons of your husband or wife can be enough to spice things up considerably.

If your spouse has never been the way you want them to be, you need to bring the subject up in conversation. It is often a good idea to suggest a role play scenario so that the spicier sex life is proposed as a one-off experience. For example, if you are pursuing the whole “wife slut” idea, you could suggest that you role play a scenario in which she is a nasty, naughty slut. Or, if you want your husband to be more dominant, you could suggest that he fucks you harder and more forcefully than usual. Exactly how you phrase your suggestions will depend on your spouse – your aim should be to make the role play sound appealing, not appalling.

Another good way of spicing up married sex is to introduce them to new ideas less directly. Buy some erotic fiction or sexually explicit movies to share together, and suggest that it might be fun to act out some of the scenarios that you are both enjoying.

My last suggestion is to be as direct as possible. Sit down with your husband or wife and say that you think it would be a good idea for the two of you to spice things up a bit. Then ask them if they have any ideas about how you might go about it. You could well be surprised to discover that your spouse is just as keen as you are to make your husband and wife sex even hotter.

Sexual Magnetism is a quality that some people have which makes you start thinking all kinds of hot, nasty, sinful thoughts as soon as you lay eyes on them. It’s sexual magnetism that gets the libido racing, makes panties damp and turns a flaccid penis into a raging hard-on.

The really good news is that anyone can increase the amount of sexual magnetism they radiate. All you have to do is follow a few simple tips. So, if the idea of silently compelling your spouse to desire you like never before is one that appeals to you, work through my step-by-step guide and make it happen…

Get Confident
First, realise that sexual magnetism is all about self-confidence. You can’t be sexually magnetic if you aren’t confident, so get yourself into a strong, confident frame of mind. Know that you’re sexy and desirable. If you don’t believe that to be true, imagine how confident you would feel if it were true. Once you’ve got that feeling, hang onto it and pretend it’s yours. Act confident and you’ll feel confident.

Magnify Your Magnetism
Next, make sure you dress the part. Sexual magnetism is magnified if you present yourself properly. Whilst a strong force of magnetism will shine through even a pair of old dungarees, putting it in a pair of stockings and heels (for women) or a smart shirt and chinos (for men) will increase the effect it has on the people around you.

Unleash Your Inner Porn Star
Now that you feel confident and look confident, you need to make sure your walk and talk make the grade. Porn stars can use their body language and speech to radiate sex even when they’re not on set, and you can do the same. Unleash your inner porn star so that you move and communicate like someone who the whole world wants to get into bed with and you’ll soon notice that your spouse is a lot more interested than usual.

Employ Innuendo
Sexually magnetic people are masters of innuendo, and they can use a conversation about anything to put explicit thoughts in your head. Start employing the art of innuendo yourself by using words and phrases that can just as easily be associated with sexuality as they can with the subject at hand. For example:

Innuendo for Men

I guess you’ll just have to suck it and see.
You’re a real handful sometimes.
Yes, I know it’s hard, but sometimes hard is good.
There’s nothing wrong with be open.

Innuendo for Women

Sorry. If I do that again, just bend me over and spank me.
Is it as hard as it looks?
Did you want to come too?
We should turn the TV off and turn something else on instead.

Follow the four tips I have presented here and you will not only increase the amount of sexual magnetism you radiate, you will also notice a surge in the libido of your spouse. What happens next is up to you….

Today my wife and I are celebrating our 18th wedding anniversary, which means we’ve been together now for two whole decades. Those of you who haven’t been married long will be pleased to hear that the relationship gets better, the marriage gets stronger and the sex gets hotter as time goes on.

Eighteen years ago we were both in our very early twenties and fairly naïve about life in general as well as about how creative sex could be. We’ve discovered together what it’s all about, and there have been plenty of laughs, quarrels, tears, low points and high points along the way. But the bottom line is that I love my wife more today than I did when I married her – and she still makes my boat float on a regular basis.

We’re celebrating the way we always celebrate – with a bottle of champagne and some hot anniversary sex. For those of you who are wondering, anniversary sex is a bit like Friday Night Filth, but it comes along just once a year and we tend to be a tad more romantic than usual. Well, we start out that way…

Sex is great. Hot sex is better. But hot married sex is, in my opinion, the best there is, and I intend to continue enjoying it with my wife for the rest of my nights.