Hot Married Sex

Porn videos don’t just have to be watched as their directors intended. There are a few creative porn video uses that are almost artistic yet still succeed in establishing an erotic or downright horny, atmosphere.

I suggest you pick a night when you and your spouse are guaranteed to be alone (you won’t want unexpected visitors) and then consider using one of the creative porn ideas below to establish a more intense sexual ambience in your home…

Muted Porn
Put a porn DVD into your player and then mute the sound. At the same time, play your favourite CD on your hi-fi and sit down with your spouse to enjoy a conversation over your favourite drink. There’s something unusual about listening to smooth jazz or classical music and enjoying a night of conversation whilst the TV is showing porn stars going at it like animals in heat.

Blind Porn
Here’s a variation on the previous idea. This time you should play a porn DVD and turn off the TV but have the audio coming through a surround sound system, so that you can hear but not see the action. Conversation may be more stilted when you try this, but you’ll be surprised at how much of a turn on listening to other people have hot sex can be.

Big Screen Porn
If you have a multimedia projector (you can now buy rudimentary but serviceable models for just a few hundred pounds or dollars) then  consider closing the curtains and projecting your favourite porn film onto your bedroom wall. Getting down and dirty with larger-than life porn stars in the background will be something you remember for a long time.

Hot Married Variations
Don’t like the idea of having regular porn in the house? Why not record your own movie with your spouse and then use that to replace the porn DVD in any of the previous suggestions? If you don’t like watching yourself, try the blind porn idea. If you don’t like listening, try the muted porn. And if you’re happy to watch and listen to yourself, why not put yourself on the big screen?

Being creative with porn can lead to a much more memorable night than simply watching it on TV with the remote in your hand. The suggestions presented here put the porn in the background so that you and your spouse can focus on what’s most important – each other.

Here’s a great oral sex video about the dilemma men face when they want to orgasm in the mouth of their partner, but aren’t allowed to do so. I wouldn’t really describe it as a dilemma (if she doesn’t want you to do that, don’t do it is my advice) but take a look at what Dan and Jennifer have to say on the subject.

A pastor of a church in Florida has issued a challenge to the married members of his congregation – to have sex for 30 nights in a row. Regardless of your religious beliefs, this sounds like a challenge worth taking up – even if only to see what you learn on the way. Take a look at the CBS news video clip below (you’ll have to watch a 30 second commercial first) and see what you think:

Dirty sex, filthy sex, nasty sex – it seems that most of us like to, or are at least in the habit of, describing sex in fairly dark ways. Of course, very few of us really believe that sex is dirty, filthy or nasty, but there is something about “getting down and dirty” that sounds a lot more appealing than “making sweet sweet love”.

The same observation can be made about the way in which we talk to our partners about and during the sexual act. “I want to fuck you hard” tends to get the primal desires roused far more effectively than “I want to enjoy rigorous intercourse with you”, even though both statements say roughly the same thing.

I think that our preference for “dirty words” stems from cultural ideas about sex that were handed down to us during childhood. Many of us were taught, either explicitly or implicitly, that “cock”, “cunt” and “fuck” were “dirty, nasty words” and shouldn’t be used to describe genitalia or the act of intercourse. In fact, all three were the regular Saxon words for precisely those things, and it wasn’t until society arbitrarily decided they were impolite that they were viewed as anything other than regular words. Naturally, as soon as polite society outlawed the open use of such words, they were all endowed with the ability to turn us on more than they had ever done previously.

Of course, some people really do think that sex itself is a dirty subject, and some people consider even married sex to be a waste of time unless the couple in question are trying to have children. Okay, maybe such people will concede that it’s acceptable to have a bit of missionary once a month “as a token”, but even mention oral sex, anal sex, mutual masturbation or handcuffs and they will look at you as if you need locking away.

In a way, this isn’t such a bad thing, because it can add a hue of teenage rebellion to married sex that keeps us feeling young and daring. “How many other married couples fuck as hot and hard as we do?” we might ask ourselves in a self-congratulatory way. The fact is that millions of other married couples are just as hot and hard in the bedroom, but because society likes to keep such facts away from the public consciousness, we all end up feeling a bit unique and rather proud.

That being the case, I suggest you forget everything I just said. Married couples should be pure and wholesome, not having dirty, filthy, nasty sex. And if you do have dirty, filthy, nasty sex with all of that cock-sucking and pussy-licking business, you’re depraved and should be flogged. And whatever you do, don’t think about cumming hard tonight in that bedroom of yours – it’s just wrong, I tell you…

Virtual sex is something that seems to be increasingly common, thanks in no small part to online worlds such as Second Life. These allow you to adopt an on-screen persona known as an avatar and enjoy a virtual life in a surprisingly well rendered 3D environment. With the content of the virtual world being created by the users themselves, it isn’t a shock to discover that sex plays as big a part of virtual life as it does real life.

Someone who is totally new to virtual worlds might be surprised to learn that in a place like Second Life you can visit strip clubs, hire escorts, explore BDSM dungeons, take in a porn movie or simply meet a girlfriend and get jiggy in the privacy of your own virtual home. Players can even get married in Second Life.

With full support for voice chat on private channels as well as text chat, virtual sex in a world like Second Life can be likened to animated phone sex. And whilst many married couples would consider such virtual sex to be tantamount to cheating if their spouse got involved with a third party, couples can play the game together and explore their sexual fantasies in a whole new way.

If you have two computers in the house, you could both log onto Second Life, spend a little time making your avatars look attractive (the “noob” look isn’t very appealing) and then experience various sexual scenarios with each other. Fancy having sex outdoors with a dozen or more people watching? There are open sex areas where you can do just that. Want to have a more romantic experience in a virtual ballroom (perhaps because you have kids who make the real thing impossible right now)? You can do that to. In fact, as long as it’s legal and consenting, there’s nothing you can’t do in Second Life.

Virtual sex isn’t for everyone by any means, and after dabbling for a while my wife and I discovered we preferred having a good old-fashioned conversation. That said, we did enjoy playing with slave / master scenarios, being naughty in public and making our avatars as sexually brazen as possible. And, as a form of high-tech foreplay, the game was quite effective.

Of course, Second Life isn’t all about sex, and there’s lots of other things that you and your spouse can do in this virtual world. Make friends from around the world, go for a walk through a rain forest, visit Amsterdam, New York, Paris or Venice. If you can imagine it, the chances are you can do it.

Creating a Second Life character and playing the game costs nothing (though you may want to upgrade your account for a few dollars so that you can buy your own land if you intend to play long term) so if you fancy experiencing virtual sex with your spouse just to see what it’s like, you can do so. Simply visit the Second Life web site to get started.