Hot Married Sex

I haven’t embedded a sex video for quite a while, so here’s a married sex video. As always, it’s for laughs (if you want actual sex videos follow the links on my XXX Links page) and this time it’s a stand-up routine rather than a television commercial. I thought it was funny, and hopefully you will too.

Eyes open orgasms are, as the term suggests, orgasms that you have with your eyes open. Most people have got into the habit of coming with their eyes closed, and although there’s nothing wrong with that, making a point of working towards and experiencing orgasm with your eyes open has a number of surprising benefits.

The first is that you will become more aware of how your body is responding to what you and your partner are doing. With your eyes closed it’s easy to just allow yourself to get carried along by sensations on a largely unconscious level, but when you have your eyes open you’ll connect the experience with the action that triggered it. For example, that delightful ache in your pussy might be due to the way your husband uses his fingers in just the right place. If you know this, you can identify exactly what turns you on more than anything else and, when the mood strikes, focus on it.

Next, having your eyes open allows you to make a deeper connection with your partner. Think about when the two of you first met and you might recall spending a long time looking into those eyes. But when was the last time you looked into them – really looked into them – for several minutes? If it’s more than a month (and for some people it’s years) keeping your eyes open and fixed on your partner during sex could rekindle some very deep feelings you’d forgotten you had.

Finally, when you achieve orgasm itself with your eyes open, you’ll find that it feels quite a bit different to an eyes closed orgasm. Rather than feeling yourself orgasm in a sea of blackness that has no real roots in time or space, you will notice that your orgasm feels more grounded, somehow more “real” and in many cases, more intense.

It has to be said that it generally takes longer to have an orgasm with your eyes open than it does to have one with your eyes closed (this is especially so for women), and you might need to give the idea a try several times before you finally succeed. But when you do, I’m confident that you’ll be glad you made the effort.

Uniform sex is a term used to describe sex where one or both partners is dressed in a role-play outfit that the other finds arousing. Common uniforms used for sex games between a husband and wife include police, naval, nursing and military uniforms, nun’s habits, French maid costumes and dominatrix outfits.

Although simply wearing a uniform might be enough to turn your partner on, for uniform sex to be most satisfying the person wearing it should try to adopt the persona and characteristics of the character they are portraying. Think of yourself as an actor or actress who is about to play a part, and when you step into your uniform, step into character.

Some couples like the idea of having sex in uniform, but aren’t confident in their ability to “carry it off” in terms of personality and character. It is for those readers that I offer my four-step quick-and-easy guide to acting in sex uniform scenarios:

1 – Identify A Role Model
First, think of someone who really is like the character that you want to portray, For example, if you want to wear a saucy French maid uniform, think of any saucy French maids you have seen on television or in movies.

2 – Identify Their Traits
Having found a role model, study them and identify the main traits that make them what they are. How do they talk? How do they walk? How do they use their eyes? What body language do they use? You can discover all of this from watching the television shows or movies that your chosen role model character appears in. Think of this as acting class.

3 – Adopt A New Name
Next, adopt a new name that is more in keeping with your character. If your own name would suit the role then by all means stick with it, otherwise choose a name that fits the uniform. This will help both you and your partner to view the character as being real.

4 – Be Your Role Model
Now it’s time to put everything together so that you and your partner can enjoy some hot uniform sex. To do this, put on the outfit and – as you do – imagine yourself stepping into the shoes of the role model you selected previously. Talk the way they talk, walk the way they walk, use your eyes and body language in the same way, and so on. Also, make sure that your partner has been instructed to view you as the character (and not their spouse) whenever you are in uniform. The more you can both immerse yourself in the game, the more satisfying it will be.

Uniform sex takes a little planning and preparation, but if you and your partner are willing to suspend disbelief and play along with each other, it can be a great fantasy experience. Fancy having sex with a member of the police force, a doctor or nurse or a television newsreader without breaking those marriage vows? Well, now you can. So the question is, who are you going to be tonight?

Does your sex life ever feel like it’s become something of a routine? If so, you’re not alone – it’s a common complaint among married couples; even those who have a routine of hot sex. For that reason I’d now like to present you with six ways to vary your sexual routine that might prove useful…

Have Fully Clothed Sex
Most of us get naked when we have hot sex, so try keeping your clothes on for a change. Yes, I’m talking about fully clothed sex. It can be more erotic than you might imagine. All that lifting of skirts, pulling aside of panties and unzipping of flies. Give it a go. But pay for your own dry cleaning.

Make It Wet
Do you use lube? Where do you put it. Thought so. Stop being so predictable and try using it everywhere. Grease each other up and then get down and dirty. Be careful though, it’s slippery when wet.

Choose Sex Names
Ask your partner to choose a sex name that represents their unbridled lust, and do the same for yourself. Then, when you’re having sex, be sure to use those names – a lot. This idea is similar to role play, but requires a lot less planning. That said, it can just as hot if you allow yourselves to get into the spirit of things.

Make Love Like A Porn Star
Watch a porn movie (or a sexy 18 movie if porn isn’t your bag) with the explicit intention of copying your favourite scene. Tip for the guys: that movie with the gang bang scene in the garage probably isn’t a good one – choose a straightforward male-female scene that your wife enjoys as much as you do.

Wear Masks
Okay, so maybe you laughed when you watched Eyes Wide Shut, but masks have plenty of erotic potential because they give you both and “excuse” (as if one were necessary) to really let loose. You’ll be surprised at how hot things can get when you both agree to wear a simple mask, so get your ass to the fancy dress store ASAP.

Oppose Your Routine
My final suggestion is that you deliberately oppose your routine by doing things in the exact opposite way that you normally do them. Do you normally fuck with the lights on? Turn them off. Do you have hot sex at night? Try the mornings or afternoons. Is it always in bed? Get busy in the lounge, or why not hire a hotel room for a weekend?

None of the six tips presented here require a degree in rocket science, but they can all fire up the booster engines of your hot married sex life. Ready to launch? Then get to it…

Hot sex is a great stress management tool, and by making sure that you enjoy hot sex on a regular basis, you can dramatically decrease the chances of being overwhelmed by the trials tensions of daily life. Some people rely on pills and potions to keep their stress levels under control, but hot sex is a much more natural – and arguably much safer – alternative.

We all know that physical exercise helps to reduce stress, but few people remember that hot sex – sex that gets your heart racing – is just as much a form of exercise as swimming, jogging or using a Stairmaster. Okay, you might not burn quite as many calories in bed as you would on a treadmill, but you will still increase your heart rate, release feel-good chemicals (endorphins) and burn up the feel-bad chemical cortisol.

I know that if I go more than a couple of days without having sex, I get stressed very easily. I also know that when I get stressed I feel less like having sex. This is a common situation, but if you aren’t aware of it you could well find yourself in a place where you never feel like having sex and you think the solution is to wait until you feel less stressed. Lots of couples fall into this trap, and as a result they can go for weeks, months or even years without sex, eventually concluding that “sex is overrated anyway” and settling for a life of celibacy by default.

There’s nothing wrong with celibacy if it’s a deliberate lifestyle choice and you happen to be single, but in a marriage sex is a very important glue that helps to hold the relationship together, so allowing stress to slowly dissolve that glue is potentially allowing the relationship itself to weaken.

If regular sex helps to relieve stress and keep a marriage strong, whilst irregular sex allows stress to build up and can put the marriage at risk over the long term, it makes sense to take sex seriously. So be wise and make a point of enjoying hot sex regularly with your spouse. Remember, a hot fuck a day keeps the Prozac at bay…