Hot Married Sex

“Say my name, bitch!” is a line from American Pie (delivered brilliantly by Alyson Hannigan) that stays with most people who have seen the movie. “Say my name” – with or without the bitch – is also the title of several popular songs. Now, as if making a further evolutionary leap, it’s the title of this post here at Hot Married Sex.

Married couples tend to call each other lots of different names when having hot sex and even not-so-hot sex. The names range from the gentle babe, honey, love and sweetheart (I’ll stop there before I need a bucket) to the much more intense bastard, bitch and slut. But the most powerful name you can call your partner isn’t any of these. No, the one that works the most magic is so close to home that most of us forget to use it. I am referring, of course, to their Christian name.

What often happens in a marriage is that we get so used to being with our husband or wife that they become, to a great extent, a part of us. This makes for a very comfortable relationship, but it also has its downsides. One downside is that we forget to tell them how much we really care about them (“She should know that by now, dammit!”). Another is that it can make it easier for us to take them for granted. And a third is that we forget to connect directly with them when making love, fucking, having hot sex or whatever else you want to call it.

Imagine how you would feel if, the next time your partner approaches orgasm, they were to look right into your eyes and moan, gasp or scream your real name before finally allowing themselves to be enveloped by their climax. The chances are that hearing them say your name instead of “God!”, “Yes!” or “Yeah Baby!” would have a pretty big impact on you. You’d feel a more intense connection, a greater sense of satisfaction and a more profound feeling of the hot sex having some real meaning.

If you agree with any of that, your homework for the next time you have hot sex is simple: give your husband or wife those incredible feelings by using their real name. Don’t repeat their name throughout the session so that you sound like you’re trying to sell them something, but do be sure to connect with them in this way as you reach your orgasm. It’s a very simple idea, but most people find that it’s a very powerful one.

How to spice up your sex life is a question that lots of people are asking. I am fortunate that I enjoy a hot married sex life, but I know that there are plenty of couples who don’t. So, for the benefit of those who want hotter married sex, today’s post provides a number of tips on how to spice things up.

To start with, define exactly how you want your sex life to improve. Do you just want more married sex? Or do you want to be more adventurous? Maybe you want to try and unleash the “slut wife” that you believe is hiding within your spouse. Or perhaps you want sex with your husband to be more aggressive and less pedestrian. Whatever the case, knowing what you want is the best place to begin.

Once you have defined what you want, ask yourself if your husband or wife has ever been that way before. For example, if you want your husband to be more dominant in bed, ask yourself if he’s ever been dominant in bed. If he has, try and figure out what triggered him to be like that, and then work on creating a similar situation that might trigger him to dominate you in the same way. The same applies for men. If your wife has previously revealed a slutty side, ask yourself what triggered it and then work on triggering it again in a similar way. Sometimes the simple act of deliberately pushing the buttons of your husband or wife can be enough to spice things up considerably.

If your spouse has never been the way you want them to be, you need to bring the subject up in conversation. It is often a good idea to suggest a role play scenario so that the spicier sex life is proposed as a one-off experience. For example, if you are pursuing the whole “wife slut” idea, you could suggest that you role play a scenario in which she is a nasty, naughty slut. Or, if you want your husband to be more dominant, you could suggest that he fucks you harder and more forcefully than usual. Exactly how you phrase your suggestions will depend on your spouse – your aim should be to make the role play sound appealing, not appalling.

Another good way of spicing up married sex is to introduce them to new ideas less directly. Buy some erotic fiction or sexually explicit movies to share together, and suggest that it might be fun to act out some of the scenarios that you are both enjoying.

My last suggestion is to be as direct as possible. Sit down with your husband or wife and say that you think it would be a good idea for the two of you to spice things up a bit. Then ask them if they have any ideas about how you might go about it. You could well be surprised to discover that your spouse is just as keen as you are to make your husband and wife sex even hotter.