Certain words can stimulate us in surprising ways, and that’s one of the main reasons why people love to read erotic fiction. But you don’t necessarily need the detailed plot of an erotic novel to benefit from sexually stimulating words – you can just as easily turn yourself on and enjoy more Hot Married Sex with a straightforward list, if you know what you are doing.

It sounds far-fetched, I know, but if you suspend your disbelief until you have given yourself a chance to read through the rest of this article, I think you’ll end up being a true believer. Are you willing to do that? Okay then, let’s continue…

Grab yourself a pad and pen and take yourself off somewhere quiet where you aren’t likely to be disturbed. Get yourself good and comfortable and then start writing down all of the words you can think of that make you feel aroused.

Initially you might begin with the most obvious and most explicit words, and that’s fine, but the real magic of this exercise is that you will soon discover dozens of less obvious words that could well turn you on even more. Consider the following list excerpt:

Harder, hotter, faster, wet, slimy, sticky, warm, salty, smooth, rough, big, tight, noisy, groan, moan, energetic, suck, taste, swallow, licking, biting, scratching, squeezing, gasping, panting, slippery, naughty…

Now none of the words in this list excerpt are particularly sexual, and all of them could be rendered very non-sexual in a regular sentence (for example, ‘The slug inched its way across the floor leaving a slimy trail…’). But when you put even these inexplicit words together in a list, the combination can easily trigger all sorts of sexual feelings and imagery.

Of course, a list of your own words will be more powerful than the excerpt presented a moment ago, and that’s because you will have personal associations with certain words that I don’t know about and therefore haven’t included.

When you have created your list (and you can add more words at any time as they occur to you) the best way to use it is as a mood enhancer. To do this, simply read through your list (either silently or – if you have privacy – out loud) at whatever pace you choose and allow the words to trigger whatever sexual thoughts, feelings, images and sexual fantasies they suggest to you. If you have taken the exercise seriously then reading through your list of sexually stimulating words even once or twice will soon have you aching (another good word!) for hot married sex with your spouse.

And you thought that lists were only for shopping and getting things done…

Hot married sex is a great stress management tool, and by making sure that you enjoy hot sex on a regular basis, you can dramatically decrease the chances of being overwhelmed by the trials tensions of daily life. Some people rely on pills and potions to keep their stress levels under control, but hot married sex is a much more natural – and arguably much safer – alternative.

We all know that physical exercise helps to reduce stress, but few people remember that hot sex – sex that gets your heart racing – is just as much a form of exercise as swimming, jogging or using a Stairmaster. Okay, you might not burn quite as many calories in bed as you would on a treadmill, but you will still increase your heart rate, release feel-good chemicals (endorphins) and burn up the feel-bad chemical cortisol.

Many people who go more than a couple of days without having sex end up getting stressed very easily, and when people get stressed they often feel less like having sex. This is a fairly common situation, but if you aren’t aware of it you could well find yourself in a place where you never feel like having sex and you think that the solution is to wait until you feel less stressed. Lots of couples fall into this trap, and as a result they can go for weeks, months or even years without sex, eventually concluding that ‘sex is overrated anyway’ and settling for a life of celibacy by default.

There’s nothing wrong with celibacy if it’s a deliberate lifestyle choice and you happen to be single, but in a marriage sex is a very important glue that helps to hold the relationship together, so allowing stress to slowly dissolve that glue is potentially allowing the relationship itself to weaken.

If regular sex helps to relieve stress and keep a marriage strong, whilst irregular sex allows stress to build up and can put the marriage at risk over the long term, it makes sense to take sex seriously. So be wise and make a point of enjoying hot sex regularly with your spouse. Remember, hot sex each day keeps the Prozac at bay…

Sex and the brain are intimately linked. In fact, we’ve all heard that the brain is the biggest erogenous zone in the body of both men and women. What this means is that if you don’t turn your brain on, you’ll have a hard time turning anything else on. Here are three secrets of Erotic Psychology that you can use to help put yourself in the mood…

See Yourself As An Object Of Lust
No matter how long you have been married, self-confidence is the most attractive quality you can have.  The more you can project an aura of confidence, the more erotically appealing you will be.  All you need to start experiencing and projecting this high level of confidence is the right mindset.  Simply imagine as vividly as possible that you are sexy and desirable. Get into the habit of doing this several times each day and you will automatically conduct yourself in a sexier, more attractive way. Not only will this make you feel more like having hot married sex, it will also make your spouse feel like it too.

Generate Sexual Energy
The more you think about sex before the actual event, the more sexual energy you generate, resulting in bigger, more powerful orgasms when that energy is finally released.  You should therefore make a point of having sex on the brain several times throughout the day, perhaps by reading an explicit book or magazine, visiting one of my XXX Links, thinking about your lover or simply losing yourself for a few minutes in a favourite erotic fantasy.  If you do this regularly, you will find that your sexual energy – and the level of satisfaction you experience – increases dramatically,

Give As Though You’re Getting Paid For It
When you’re finally between the sheets, act as if you and your spouse are getting paid an enormous amount of money for your efforts.  Either take it in turns to role-play being an escort to each other, or imagine that you’re both being filmed for what will be the most erotic movie ever made.  Both attitudes will make you a more attentive, proactive lover, and your partner is likely to reciprocate with an equal amount of focus and enthusiasm.  Enjoy!