Hot Married Sex

Certain words can stimulate us in surprising ways, and that’s one of the main reasons why people love to read erotic fiction. But you don’t necessarily need the detailed plot of an erotic novel to benefit from sexually stimulating words – you can just as easily turn yourself on and enjoy more Hot Married Sex with a straightforward list, if you know what you are doing.

It sounds far-fetched, I know, but if you suspend your disbelief until you have given yourself a chance to read through the rest of this article, I think you’ll end up being a true believer. Are you willing to do that? Okay then, let’s continue…

Grab yourself a pad and pen and take yourself off somewhere quiet where you aren’t likely to be disturbed. Get yourself good and comfortable and then start writing down all of the words you can think of that make you feel aroused.

Initially you might begin with the most obvious and most explicit words, and that’s fine, but the real magic of this exercise is that you will soon discover dozens of less obvious words that could well turn you on even more. Consider the following list excerpt:

Harder, hotter, faster, wet, slimy, sticky, warm, salty, smooth, rough, big, tight, noisy, groan, moan, energetic, suck, taste, swallow, licking, biting, scratching, squeezing, gasping, panting, slippery, naughty…

Now none of the words in this list excerpt are particularly sexual, and all of them could be rendered very non-sexual in a regular sentence (for example, ‘The slug inched its way across the floor leaving a slimy trail…’). But when you put even these inexplicit words together in a list, the combination can easily trigger all sorts of sexual feelings and imagery.

Of course, a list of your own words will be more powerful than the excerpt presented a moment ago, and that’s because you will have personal associations with certain words that I don’t know about and therefore haven’t included.

When you have created your list (and you can add more words at any time as they occur to you) the best way to use it is as a mood enhancer. To do this, simply read through your list (either silently or – if you have privacy – out loud) at whatever pace you choose and allow the words to trigger whatever sexual thoughts, feelings, images and sexual fantasies they suggest to you. If you have taken the exercise seriously then reading through your list of sexually stimulating words even once or twice will soon have you aching (another good word!) for hot married sex with your spouse.

And you thought that lists were only for shopping and getting things done…

Is there such thing as the ‘best’ lovemaking position? Actually there is! However, the best positions for men and women are different. Also, did you know that by moving even one inch in any direction while in these positions, you can dramatically change the feeling and intensity of a position? Take your time to find the best angles for the both of you, while using these positions.

The Best Position For Women To Climax

The reverse missionary is identical to the traditional missionary except that she is on top. This is probably the easiest position for a woman to climax because she can control the friction to her clitoris and/or G-spot.

Since you typically want the woman to orgasm first, this would be one of your first positions and then move to a position where the guy has full control for his orgasm.

You can vary your leg positions by both of you spreading your legs, or by alternating the one who has them spread and the one who has them together.

The Best Position For Men To Orgasm

Practically every animal species utilizes the rear-entry ‘doggy-style’ position, so it is a natural one for humans to enjoy, as well. Although you won’t have face-to-face contact, there are many benefits. It is great for guys because it gives them full control.

This is one of the best positions for hitting her G-spot and allows you to fondle her breasts, stomach, clitoris, back, neck and other sensual spots. Even she can touch her clitoris in this position.

She kneels before you (some women enjoy it more if their head is down on a pillow) and you enter her from behind.

The main benefit for the guy is a view of her beautiful bottom and being able to see the action, while getting incredibly deep penetration (above-average guys need to be careful as deep thrusts might hit her cervix, which can be quite painful).

The Mistake Couples Make Using Lovemaking Positions

Of course, books show dozens, if not hundreds, of sexual positions, but the reality is that there are maybe only eight basic positions, with slight variations for each.

So what happens when you’ve tried all eight positions to death? Let’s face it, ­­in the end, lovemaking is generally always the same.

That’s why you should explore ALL aspects of sexuality about each other. I don’t mean anything freaky here. I just mean cultivate an adventurous spirit. Turn foreplay into a game. Add a prop or two.

Try a new place. How about starting off with a plate of fruits? There are literally HUNDREDS of ways you can make your lovemaking more exciting, passionate and fulfilling long-term, rather than just trying new positions.

About the Author: Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the author of 500 Lovemaking Tips, a book full of ways to spice up your lovemaking, adding more passion, pleasure and intimacy to your experience. To read more, visit 500 Lovemaking Tips.

Let’s say your lover has been very vocal about one particular fantasy lately. Maybe he’s gone on and on with details about his fantasy escapades with another woman while you sit back and watch. Maybe he’s talked about watching you with another woman – or another man – while he films it all. Has he mentioned something more taboo, the kind of things that make you blush like mad when you think of them, the fantasies you know he would never really want to try?

Those fantasies don’t have to stop with dirty talk . While you don’t have to go all the way and make them a reality (after all, do you really want to get arrested for having public sex in Central Park?), you can ramp up the fire by recreating those fantasies as best you can – right in the privacy of your own bedroom.

When it comes to fulfilling some of those dirty talk fantasies, sex toys are your friend! A trip through the internet sex shops can provide hours of fun and any toy you can imagine. If you’re more adventurous, locate your nearest local store and pay them a visit. Take your lover along. As you’re shopping for the toys, whisper into his ear that you remember that fantasy he loves so much. Would he like to try it out now?

If you’re the kind who loves to spring surprises on your partner, keep your activities quiet until the big night, when you put a smile on his face by telling him his fantasy is about to come true.

If he’s dying to be with two women at once, but you’re not comfortable with actually inviting another woman into bed with you, now is the time to invest in men’s sex toys! We’re not talking about those silly blow-up dolls, either. There are plenty of products out there that stimulate the feel and motion of a woman’s most intimate parts. Blindfold your lover, tie him to the bed, and whisper into his ear while you slowly slide that toy down his erection. Make him imagine it’s another woman, and taunt him with it – perhaps demand that he come for her and let you watch. You know what trips your man’s trigger, so use it to your advantage!

This fantasy trick works for women, too. Want to be with two men but you’re too shy to ever really consider it? Those sex shops have a huge variety of dildos to choose from. Ask your lover to use one on you while you do something to him – what, it doesn’t matter. It’s your fantasy! Simulate the idea of two men by using that dildo and making the most of your dirty talk while you’re doing it. It might not be the “real thing” but it’s pretty close!

You can also spice up the dirty talk with costumes. Does your lover have a thing for being spanked by his teacher? Become that teacher! Outfit yourself with the skirt, the finely-pressed blouse, the wire-rimmed glasses and the hair in the bun. Hold a ruler in one hand and a piece of chalk in the other. If he’s been a very bad boy, he gets a good spank with that ruler – and if he’s been exceptionally bad, he gets a trip to the principal’s office, where he just might meet up with the big paddle.

The dirty talk fantasies are endless. Which ones do you want to make into reality? Ask your lover which ones he wants to take a bit further, and then you can work together to make your favorite fantasies into your favorite bedroom games.

Read more on dirty talk fantasies at the Dirty Talking Guide website.

Did you know that people who try to spice up their lovemaking, often make their experiences LESS fulfilling? It’s true. Over the years, I’ve seen couples make the same mistakes over and over again, when trying to improve their love lives, and I’d like to teach you how to overcome and avoid these problems.

Here are the 7 lovemaking mistakes. Are you making them?

MISTAKE #1: Feeling scared or embarrassed to talk about trying new things

Have you ever had an idea to spice up your lovemaking but were afraid of what your partner may think? Believe it or not, in 90% of cases, your partner would LOVE to try something new, too, but they’re just as uncomfortable or embarrassed about bringing it up as you are.

And you don’t need to introduce whips, chains or a third person. That’s nonsense! There are hundreds of ways to bring variety to your passionate play that aren’t crude or dangerous and that your partner is sure to be comfortable with.

MISTAKE #2: Trying to convince the partner to make love

If your lover is tired or not in the mood for sex, trying to convince or persuade them to have sex almost NEVER works. On the other hand, when a person is sexually aroused, their body releases the chemical ‘adrenaline’ into the bloodstream. This chemical is what gives you the  energy to make love. So here’s how to arouse them the right way. Yes, even if they’re tired.

Ladies: Want to get him in the mood? Give him fellatio or manually stroke him between 9 ­ 10 in the morning. This is when his testosterone levels are highest for the day. For better results, also wear something sexy or nothing at all. He’ll like that.

Lads: Deep passionate kisses are one of the biggest ‘turn-ons’ for women. Looking in her eyes and touching her face while kissing her can really increase arousal, too. And give some attention to her neck­­it will drive her wild. But don’t rush this! Spend quality time building up her arousal with your sensual kisses.

MISTAKE #3: Neglecting foreplay to enjoy intercourse sooner

People in a relationship (especially men) tend to neglect foreplay so they can begin to enjoy intercourse sooner, but did you know that foreplay is actually said to intensify orgasms? That’s right. If you kiss, caress and touch longer, you can make your lovemaking even more satisfying.

So SLOW DOWN. Take your time. If you want to make it even better, tease your partner in a playful way. (This works like crazy.)

If you find something that they really enjoy, stop doing it, move back, and then do it again later. The more you pull back and push forward, the more they’ll want it. And the more intense their experience will be. There are many games you can play to heighten this anticipation, too.

MISTAKE #4: Using toys to make your lovemaking better

When sex hits a rough patch, many couples (men especially) think that some plastic or vibrating thingy will instantly takes things through the roof.

Wrong!… While toys can certainly have their place in your lovemaking repertoire, relying on them can be extremely dangerous. These outside sources of pleasure can quickly make lovemaking even less fulfilling.

Why? Because you don’t want your partner to end up looking forward to their plastic toy for pleasure more than they look forward to pleasure with you, do you? Couples need to first fully discover how to please all their spouses’ body parts before introducing other elements. Use them as a spice, not the main course.

MISTAKE #5: Trying to make the woman orgasm ONLY from intercourse

Men often feel “unmanly” if they can’t satisfy their woman from intercourse. But what they need to understand is that a large number of women can’t achieve orgasm through normal lovemaking.

Just knowing this takes the pressure off men completely. Now there’s no need to get upset when their women don’t reach orgasm. Instead, men should master the art of cunnilingus (going down on a woman).

MISTAKE #6: Trying to “finish” at the same time

Simultaneous orgasms are quite overrated. Instead of aiming for one orgasm that you share together, focus completely on the woman’s needs first.

Hold off from the positions you find most enjoyable and instead make love in ways that are most pleasurable for your lady, until she is completely satisfied. That way you have a much greater chance of both climaxing.

MISTAKE #7: Sticking to a “set routine” too often

You know the drill. You take your clothes off, insert part A into part B, and, within a few minutes, the routine is over. Sound familiar?

No matter how fantastic lovemaking can be, there’s no denying it can get boring over the years. And the reason is because lovemaking in its basic act is always the same. But the danger is letting it get “too routine,” which can begin to affect your relationship.

The BEST WAY to protect your love life and precious connection with your partner is to have lots of new lovemaking ideas ready at your disposal.

That’s the secret.

In fact, when you have an abundance of NEW tips and techniques ready, you’ll enjoy more hot, steamy and passionate lovemaking, discover newfound enthusiasm to make love and even make love more often.

About the Author: Oprah Love Expert Michael Webb is the author of 500 Lovemaking Tips, a book full of ways to spice up your lovemaking, adding more passion, pleasure and intimacy to your experience. To read more, visit 500 Lovemaking Tips.

Hot married sex is a great stress management tool, and by making sure that you enjoy hot sex on a regular basis, you can dramatically decrease the chances of being overwhelmed by the trials tensions of daily life. Some people rely on pills and potions to keep their stress levels under control, but hot married sex is a much more natural – and arguably much safer – alternative.

We all know that physical exercise helps to reduce stress, but few people remember that hot sex – sex that gets your heart racing – is just as much a form of exercise as swimming, jogging or using a Stairmaster. Okay, you might not burn quite as many calories in bed as you would on a treadmill, but you will still increase your heart rate, release feel-good chemicals (endorphins) and burn up the feel-bad chemical cortisol.

Many people who go more than a couple of days without having sex end up getting stressed very easily, and when people get stressed they often feel less like having sex. This is a fairly common situation, but if you aren’t aware of it you could well find yourself in a place where you never feel like having sex and you think that the solution is to wait until you feel less stressed. Lots of couples fall into this trap, and as a result they can go for weeks, months or even years without sex, eventually concluding that ‘sex is overrated anyway’ and settling for a life of celibacy by default.

There’s nothing wrong with celibacy if it’s a deliberate lifestyle choice and you happen to be single, but in a marriage sex is a very important glue that helps to hold the relationship together, so allowing stress to slowly dissolve that glue is potentially allowing the relationship itself to weaken.

If regular sex helps to relieve stress and keep a marriage strong, whilst irregular sex allows stress to build up and can put the marriage at risk over the long term, it makes sense to take sex seriously. So be wise and make a point of enjoying hot sex regularly with your spouse. Remember, hot sex each day keeps the Prozac at bay…